Hi, I’m Chelsea and my passion it to encourage christian women in marriage, motherhood, and the mundane, especially when it includes brokenness.
If you are anything like me, then you have a huge vision for your life and you go after your goals like a boss. You are passionate about being a good wife/mother/sister/daughter/friend/employee/ministry leader/volunteer….basically EVERYTHING. You love God and want to live the abundant life.
But, you find yourself Exhausted. Frustrated. Overwhelmed. And Broken.
And possibly afraid of being found out.
Why should you read my blog?
Well…because I know a thing or two (or 100) about being broken and not having it all together. You see, I thought I had it all together and it all came crashing down when I heard these words from my doctor.
“You have depression”
Of course, I figured she was just wrong and I needed a second opinion. Besides, I was only having random weird physical symptoms and I wasn’t crying all the time. I was a strong christian woman. Seriously, I had a husband and two beautiful children at the time, a stable career as a senior internal controls auditor, and I had purchased a home. I was living what some would call “the dream”.
The problem was I had been lying to myself about just how together I had it. My marriage had been going through some stuff where divorce was actually an option, I was exhausted trying to do it all and be it all to everyone and everything, and my spiritual life was out of touch with reality. I even had a miscarriage and then carried on like I didn’t have time to grieve the life that was just lost (while on a church staff planning retreat). I lived a moral life but had completely lost touch with what was going on at a deep soul level because of course – I was a strong christian woman.
It didn’t stop there.
In a matter of a short time span…
– I was pregnant again
– Separated from my husband (very few people knew about this)
– In a bad car wreck that totaled my car while 8 months pregnant
– Hubby was back home to help but marriage was broken
– Weeks later my mom died unexpectedly
– 2 months later my stem-mom lost her fight with cancer
– My health continued to deteriorate
– I was pregnant again with boy/girl twins
– Surprised at birth to learn our daughter had Down Syndrome
– My infant son died unexpectedly
You see, I know broken. This may seem like a LOT, but there is so much more.
Today, I refuse to wear the mask anymore. You know the mask right? It’s the face you put on that makes it seem like everything is okay when it is not. Because you know, being a strong christian woman you can never appear weak for fear of being in a place of not having faith. Or you must not be reading your bible enough or in prayer consistently or some other “christianly” work you should be doing.
Girlfriend, I have come to learn that is so far from the truth of God’s word and I want to help other women be free from the pressure to have the appearance of having it all together. We must learn to lean into the part of our stories that do not have the perfect Instagram filter. The real, authentic YOU. The YOU the God so deeply adores.
It wasn’t until I was stripped of everything that I thought made me a whole woman that I began to learn about true identity. My identities as a wife, mom, career woman, ministry leader, etc. don’t mean a thing if my security and significance is found there. My real and true authentic identity can only be found in Jesus Christ.
My journey is not at the place of arrival….if it were I would be dead. However, I am trusting that God has gifted me to help other women just like myself who have been derailed or found themselves on the wrong track. Although I am a Certified Life Breakthrough Coach, I am keenly aware that no matter what training and life experiences I have had, my help comes from the Lord.
My mission is to join you on the journey to live intentionally and unashamed of who YOU are and the assignment that God has for YOU. Here you will find real authenticity, grace, encouragement, truth, and a space to breathe and just BE.